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Post by Lick The Pavement on Jul 19, 2008 3:31:48 GMT -5
It's a question I ask myself ALL the damn time. And I really don't know how to answer it.
Ok - so some of you know that I now work 3 jobs to support myself and my entire family. I am working really hard and make sure groceries and things are bought and filled in the house.
Thing is. I make this money. Half goes to my bills alone, and about 30% goes to my family. I NEVER buy myself something. My tax money - spent on updating my parents living room with a new TV stand for the HDTV, and a ring for my mother for mothers day.
Today - I decided to get off the family plan for my cell phone and finally got my own plan and cellphone. This detaches me from ANY bill I owe from my family. Thing is - I feel TERRIBLE.
I feel like I splurged on myself. I feel awful that I bought myself a phone when I know I could have used that for groceries or even updating the house needs (floors, bathroom, rug, etc).
Am I dumb for feeling this? I just feel so bad that I really am considering returning the phone.
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Post by jickity on Jul 19, 2008 8:04:06 GMT -5
you're not dumb for feeling that way.
I myself is much in the same boat. My mum is very sick, so the house is one wage down.So I pick up the difference with paying bills & such, thus meaning I have no money for anything but the house or my own bills. leaving me with no play money.
I understand why you might feel terrible for treating yourself. But its perfectly understandable We all have to do something for ourselves from time to time, no matter what it might be. we'd go insane otherwise. so go and enjoy your new phone, no need to feel guilty. I'm sure your family would want you to enjoy yourself. You sound like a top fella looking out for their loved ones,that in itself is a wonderful thing.
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Post by Xalazi on Jul 19, 2008 9:04:50 GMT -5
Don't beat yourself up for it. You have to do a little something for yourself every now and then. Your family doesn't want you to be their slave after all.
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Post by timmy on Jul 20, 2008 7:28:57 GMT -5
I'd say you should not worry. I'm sure your family knows you need something just for you. And Happy B-day btw. (It said so on the home page) just say the phone was a gift to your self haha
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Post by aztalanturf on Jul 21, 2008 23:21:18 GMT -5
Try not to feel bad about the phone. Like everyone else has said, you need to treat yourself once in a while and if you're still feeling guitly, consider it a sanity item. I'm sure your family appreciates everything you're doing and they know how hard you're working (and I bet they really would like it if the phone helps to keep you sane - so really it's for them too!).
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